I’m a woman with history. I have two failed relationships with Jesus in my past. Obviously it was not Jesus’ fault. He did the best he could to warn me, to compel me to keep on following him and to remain in the shelter of His Father. Yet I chose to ignore him and went out on my own path two separate times. The problem is I’m too resourceful, and given a good amount of confidence, gifts and talents. As a young person, the world beaconed me to try out my gifts and talents, and lured me with promises of success and glory onto myself. Besides my parents didn’t follow Jesus and sadly no one pursued me from church when I stopped attending. This confirmed my observation that it’s not possible to love and live in victory as a Christians. (Looking back they were many wounded members in the body of Christ.)

I would love to go back in time and choose the right path on both occasions. However I can not. Instead I can use my experiences to understand what would work to compel another young person to reject the world’s beaconing and temptations to keep on following Jesus. I will encourage and pursue them because I know how critical and vital their decision is. I will tell them what awaits at the end. It definitely is not life. There’s a lot of ugliness and evil too. 

What was so different in my third attempt to follow Jesus? Did I come back to him because I was at the end of my resources like in the prodigal son story? I didn’t come back because my resources ran out. I’m resourceful and I made a decent nest for myself getting married to a successful man and having two beautiful children. With a fake smile and a hidden past of unresolved issues and disappointed faith, I settled in for over fifteen years. Then suddenly one day Jesus comes pursuing me and would not relent. I’m so glad he never gave up on me! He is my Champion of Heaven! 

It’s been about four years since my return. Has my household changed as I have? Most importantly, are they saved? The answer is no. But let me tell you this – I have more life and freedom than ever before! My marriage is better than ever before too! God, my potter used all circumstances and people to do major work in me. ALL of it was for my benefit and to give me greater life. Who knew I had so many issues and that I contributed so much to the relational conflict and strife?!! I was blind but now I see. 

I recently read a great book that blessed me tremendously. It’s called “How to be the happy wife of an unsaved husband” by Linda Davis. (The book was published in 1987.) It took fifteen years for her husband to get saved. She wrote her story after her husband became saved. I wondered why I’m called to share my story in the middle. I think it’s because we forget the intricacies of the pain after the event. I barely remember my child labor. Also I think it’s because there is a great need for this ministry. The times are more urgent than 1980s. I see the Lord calling back many of his children that have fallen through the cracks of church. Many are in my situation when they turn back – unequally yoked. 

I’ve walked through enough with my Jesus to know the challenges and the tests that come into these marriages. I pray that through my sharing someone will be encouraged, have hope and not give up. 

I’ll share my stories as the Holy Spirit leads me to. Please pray for me. I’ll be praying for you too. If you know of others “unequally yoked” in their marriage, share my blog. Perhaps my stories will encourage them in their challenges. Thank you for reading! God bless you! From the heart with love. 

1 Corinthians 7:14 (EXB)
14 The husband who is not a believer is made holy [sanctified; touched by holiness] through his believing wife. And the wife who is not a believer is made holy [sanctified; touched by holiness] through her believing husband. If this were not true, your children would not be clean [be spiritually impure; or be without spiritual influence], but now your children are holy [some Corinthians said an unbeliever defiled a Christian marriage; Paul reverses this and says believers “sanctify” the marriage].

P.S. The book by Linda Davis can be applied to any of your family relationships – unsaved children, grandchildren, parents, in-laws, etc. Jesus desires everyone to believe in him and be saved. Unlike praying and asking for a baby, financial provision and healing; it involves the self-will of another individual. Therefore, it may take longer. The scripture promises us this: 
Acts 16:31 (NLT)
31 They replied, “Believe in the Lord Jesus and you will be saved, along with everyone in your household.”

I’m a believer of this promise however long it takes. While waiting I’m convinced you can have a happy marriage with an unsaved husband. In fact I’m living this right now. I’ll share everything that I have learned through this blog so that you can live it too.