I had a dream on 8/12/25 before I woke up. It was so vivid. The gist of the dream is that I am living life with vampires. I remember helping them by setting up wide and strong tent because any crack would allow the sun in which can hurt and burn them badly. I felt like we are traveling nomads and so we are not in permanent homes but tents like the ones used by nomads who live in desert. I remember in my dream that I would sometimes stitch or even use duct tape to patch the tears on the tent roof so that the vampires wonāt get burned from the sun. I remember I had to be very careful and mindful of their nature living together with them – they are vampires. Thatās when I woke up.
I asked a few good friends about their thoughts about my dream and here are their thoughts:
āShowing Godās love to sinners (your actions towards your family, community) so they know Him. Your obedience to God (prayer, fast, reading Bible over those you love is your stitching, taping) so they would repent and turn so they do not experience the wrath of God (burned by the Sun)ā
āWow that is such a detailed dream.
Hmm I canāt claim to interpret this dream.
The only thing I could think of – just based on the dream and not to be taken personally.
Are there any areas or traits that represent negative emotions or thoughts / memories being preserved tightly and being cared for and carried around. Maybe they should be brought to light and that way they will be eliminated or not be cause for any harm or bondage.ā
Both of their thoughts resonated with me. I see all the time that my obedience and prayers bring down the blessings and protection of God into my family members, friends, and communities that Iām involved with. Until they become born again, I should see them as vampires. I must be careful and mindful.
My husband and I have been working with a marriage therapist. Iāve been holding in many grievances over the years to maintain a peaceful life for my children. Iām not good about communicating my emotions and hurts; and my husband hasnāt been ideal in listening to me too.
Now as an empty nester, the buffer or distraction of the children are gone. I sense the Holy Spirit is releasing me to start sharing my grievances more with my husband. Please š for us. Pray for my discernment and wisdom as I navigate all these pent up emotions and grievances with my husband and marriage therapist. I have to be careful and mindful that both of them are not saved when I am sharing with them. Thank you. It feels like walking through a new territory and there are land mines.
If you cannot use a Christian therapist for your marriage, I suggest finding a Gottman certified therapist.
https://www.gottman.com/couples/
Iāve been subscribed to their newsletter for a couple of years and their advice and guidance are based upon their own successful marriage, thousands of clients served, and extensive clinical studies. I finally got my husband to agree to using a Gottman certified therapist. We have been seeing her, meeting biweekly. Itās been very helpful.
Whoever you choose for your marriage therapist, ask them about their marriage. I donāt recommend seeing someone who has a history of divorce because they will quit too early on your marriage conflict. Thatās just my opinion. Hereās a story that you should read: https://www.businessinsider.com/husband-wife-made-a-pact-never-to-divorce-2025-8
I am a Gen Xer and an immigrant. We didnāt learn how to communicate our emotions or how to navigate conflict resolution. We simply learned to stuff it down and carry on. It is no wonder that I would explode like a volcano. Before Christ, I would explode frequently. After Christ, I would explode infrequently but I desire not to explode at all. If Iām going to have zero explosions then I must develop skills in communicating and understanding conflict resolution.
Here is a fun article about Gen Xers. I thought it was pretty accurate. https://www.msn.com/en-us/money/news/gen-x-isn-t-the-forgotten-generation-it-s-the-meh-generation/ar-AA1JOIme?ocid=sapphireappshare
Currently the Holy Spirit has been opening my eyes to the importance of āemotional intelligenceā. Did you know that a high EQ is a better indicator of success in a workplace than a high IQ? Itās true. There are countless studies and research done by secular social scientists and business MBA programs that show this to be true.
Here is a podcast that I just started listening to. His podcast is all about developing emotional intelligence. He is a pastor and on this podcast he is very vulnerable about his lack of EQ causing harm in his marriage and church dysfunction. As a pastor and leader, it affected everyone that was under his leadership.
Wherever you are in the Lord, thereās a time and season for everything. If you are not being delivered from an anger issue or whatever negative trait, then perhaps itās time to start developing skills and tools in āemotional intelligenceā. This pastorās podcast is a good resource. He talks about his parentsā and his wifeās parentsā marriages in this podcast episode. Whatever we donāt heal, we will most likely transfer it to the next generation. Therefore itās worth the effort to develop your emotional intelligence and heal your marriage.
The pastorās sharing made me think about my parentsā marriage. My parentsā marriage has always been very contentious and difficult. I felt like a peacemaker and a garbage dump for my mom since I was a young teenager. (Iām certain that if Jesus didnāt come back for me 14 years ago, Iād repeat the same trauma to my daughter since sheās a good listener too.) My parents are now in their 80s. My dad is still unsaved and he looks and reminds me of a zombie. Iāve shared and dropped off so many evangelistic books and devotionals for him. I donāt know if he has read any of them. My mom says he just puts them away. At least he doesnāt throw them away. My mom is saved but a baby Christian all her life and never wanting to grow up until recently. She was diagnosed with blood cancer in November 2024. She received chemotherapy treatments for the last seven months. It was a grueling process but praise be to God, the treatments worked! Thereās no more abnormal cells in her blood. She now only has to receive a chemo shot once a month and oral chemo medicine. Itās a lifelong treatment but itās doable. She has greatly matured in the past year. Now she is reading her Bible and relying upon God and trying not to use her own judgment and strength to control others and things. I pray that she can find a good local church and make some godly friends in there too. š
Iām not sure how to end this blog but this passage comes to mind:
Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 (NKJV)
Everything Has Its Time
1 To everything there is a season,
A time for every purpose under heaven:
2 A time to be born,
And a time to die;
A time to plant,
And a time to pluck what isplanted;
3 A time to kill,
And a time to heal;
A time to break down,
And a time to build up;
4 A time to weep,
And a time to laugh;
A time to mourn,
And a time to dance;
5 A time to cast away stones,
And a time to gather stones;
A time to embrace,
And a time to refrain from embracing;
6 A time to gain,
And a time to lose;
A time to keep,
And a time to throw away;
7 A time to tear,
And a time to sew;
A time to keep silence,
And a time to speak;
8 A time to love,
And a time to hate;
A time of war,
And a time of peace.
What a great article about tents!
āYeshua the Messiah, the Nazarene from the line of Judah, would be the THE LORD Himself tabernacling among us in a tent of human flesh.
But thereās more! There are more than two tents. Before ascending again to the Father, Yeshua promised not to leave us as orphans but to send that same Holy Spirit, the Shekinah, to dwell in US! Yes ā WE are now the tents, the tabernacles of the Lord.
And Paul was a tent-maker.
Like so many other key figures in the Bible (Gideon, David, Peter, and Jesus, to name a few) Paulās profession was no accident.
His income may have come from constructing tents in the natural, but spiritually, his job was to make people into spiritual ātentsā too. Everyone he brought to faith becomes a miniature tabernacle, purified by the sacrificial blood of Messiah and made worthy of hosting the Lord of Hosts.
The Shekinah, the very Spirit of the Lord, tabernacles in us today. As born-again believers we have all become tabernacles, carrying the presence of God wherever we go. And one day we will tabernacle with Him in glory in the permanent home He has prepared for us.ā
https://www.oneforisrael.org/holidays/sukkot-jesus-tabernacled-and-paul-made-tents/
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